Chabwino, poyang'ana momwe zonse zimachitikira, mtsikanayo wakhala akulota za kugonana kotereku ndipo ndikuganiza kuti sizinali zopanda pake zomwe adaganiza zolipira motere, mwina pali kusowa kwa kukhutira pankhani ya kugonana kapena kungodziwa kumene kuli kale. Ponseponse, amamuwombera mwangwiro, amamukonda kwambiri, kuweruza ndi kubuula ndi kuusa moyo, ndipo nthawi yaposa zonse zomwe amayembekeza, mwinamwake iye adzawonekera pabedi lake kangapo.
Anapiye oyera amakonda kugonana ndi amuna akuda. Amakonda kuchititsa manyazi amuna awo ndikuseka mitu yawo yofiira. Sataya ngakhale makondomu ndi mvuto wa okondedwa awo kusonyeza kuti akunyenga mwamuna wake. Ayenera kudziwa kuti amamunyengerera ndi zakuda ndipo samayamikira machende ake. Bulu aliyense amawerengera kuchuluka kwa amuna omwe adakhalapo ndipo amanyadira kwambiri kugonana kwake ndi Afirika amphamvu.
Ndipo mawere ake ndi aakulu.